-divorce…and dating after 80-

Malin was being quite the little drama queen this evening as I was tucking her and Avery into bed. I prayed with them and kissed them, and she started going on and on about how much she loves me. “You are a GREAT mommy. I LOVE you SO much.” I hadn’t been feeling like a very good mommy this evening, so at this point I stopped her and asked her why I’m a good mommy. She threw her hands up in the air, like she was about to say that she really couldn’t come up with a good reason, and said very definitely; “Because you love me! Some mommies don’t love their children. Some mommies get divorced from their husbands and make the children live with him!” And then she started on a spiel about marriage and divorce which was quite surprising.

One quotable highlight: “At your marriage, you make a promise to be married for as long as you live. And if you divorce, you’re sinning against God.”

Divorce really isn’t something we talk about. I’m almost positive that she’s never heard either of us say that divorce is “sinning against God.” Some of the things that girl comes up with….. I’m not sure if she’s a better listener than we realize, if it’s divine inspiration, or maybe her mind is just a little free spirit that cannot be reigned in. One of the teacher’s helpers in her classroom, Mary Lou, also goes to church with us. On their way to lunch one day, the two of them were discussing loving your enemies, and Malin pointed out; “Well then, we need to love Satan, because he’s our biggest enemy.” So… yeah. She’s an interesting kid to get into a conversation with. Probably the topper of the discussion this evening was this little gem of a thought:

“But the problem is, when you’re 80… and you divorce from somebody, and you want to find a new date… then that’s hard.”


About ruthie.voth

Wife of one, mother of four, friend of many. Lover of details, color, good conversations, finding balance, and being honest. Passionate lover of a well-crafted sentence - even more so if it's witty. Weird blend of cynical optimist. I'm the worst kind of woman. I'm high maintenance, but I think I'm low maintenance. Somehow, people still love me. Must be grace.
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3 Responses to -divorce…and dating after 80-

  1. MamMam says:

    My, my I wonder what she’ll dream about tonight or you too for that matter. She’s quite the little theologian. I wonder what her future holda. Remember that song. ‘You just don’t know who’s sitting in that high chair!”?


  2. sarah says:

    i think i had the love your enemies…so we must love satan conversation with my dad when i was little. i’ll have to ask him!


  3. Uncle Dave says:

    Ruthie, have you read the story of Joseph to her? He says to Potiphar’s wife, “How could I do such a thing and sin against God?” Perhaps she made the connection ….


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