good for the soul

Confession: Our phone was disconnected recently because we didn’t pay our phone bill. And the phones have been in and out so much this winter and spring that we didn’t notice for several days. It wasn’t until I was sitting down at lunch thinking out loud: I wonder why the camp phone isn’t out… and Justin and Julia still have phone….. oh! I wonder how long it’s been since we paid our phone bill…. ha!

I’m probably not taking this seriously enough, because the whole thing makes me laugh. I didn’t think we were the kind of people who get our phone disconnected. As it turns out, though – we are. Between the two of us, we are: disorganized, spontaneous, forgetful… I could go on, but really that’s all it takes.

So… to keep this from happening again, I sat down with Roger and wrote out a list of which bills get paid automatically and which ones we pay online. He keeps that all in his head, but I’ve always gotten them mixed up. Now that I realize our phone bill won’t pay itself and that I don’t have to physically write out a check and put it in the mailbox…. when the bill comes, I can take care of it by myself. (Instead of waiting for Roger to show up so I can forget to ask him if he’s already taken care of that. That’s usually how it works.) In the future, I may have to take complete blame for something like this. That doesn’t sound so good.

I’m sure it all sounds simple to you, because you would never forget to pay your phone bill. But from the view inside my appalling brain (aren’t you happy you don’t live there?), knowing how to pay your own bills feels… empowering.


About ruthie.voth

Wife of one, mother of four, friend of many. Lover of details, color, good conversations, finding balance, and being honest. Passionate lover of a well-crafted sentence - even more so if it's witty. Weird blend of cynical optimist. I'm the worst kind of woman. I'm high maintenance, but I think I'm low maintenance. Somehow, people still love me. Must be grace.
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5 Responses to good for the soul

  1. For us, these things usually work best when the responsibility belongs to only one of us. When we share we inevitalbly count on the other person and confusion ensues.

    Don’t think I’ve ever had the phone disconnected but definitely have been late on bill paying.

    I have one of those brains too and all things money are out of my comfort area.


    • Ruthie says:

      I’m starting to figure that out, Aunt Joyce. I guess this is what it took to pound it in my head that I need to take responsibility for our personal bills. I hate anything money-related too, but Roger already takes care of camp and church finances.


      • WEll, I just hate that you have to mess with money. The only good part about it is having some worry free cash in the pocket when one stops in at a yard sale or consignmnet shop.

        Okay so that’s not the ONLY good thing but it’s one of life’s very fine pleasures.


  2. sarah says:

    i seriously said the same thing about paying bills the other day! that it’s empowering. dave laughed at me though. and when they get paid on time i feel bullet proof! well, that may be an exaggeration, but it feels good!


    • Ruthie says:

      You have no idea how much better you’ve just made me feel about myself. 🙂 I was feeling kind of silly about writing that on this post. But I got in a hurry at the end and just clicked publish.


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