I can’t write a series of Father’s Day posts without saying this, “Dad, thanks for all the high standards you set for me growing up. You were right. I eventually did gain enough maturity to appreciate them.”
Here’s an excerpt from the letter he wrote me for my graduation.
I know that it has not been easy for you to be my daughter. I have held up such a high standard for you and it differed so much from the standards of your friends around you, both at school and at church. I guess I have been trying to make you the kind of girl that I was looking for when I was looking for a girlfriend and found in your mother.
Truth. It wasn’t always easy being Roy Hunsberger’s daughter. But, in a sense, the rest of my life has been easier because of it. Looking back over my past, I have very few regrets – because my parents taught me to make wise choices early in life.
When Roger and I were falling in love, I had the chance to ride with some friends from NC out to visit him in Oklahoma and meet his family for the first time. If I look 10-12 years down the road and think about sending Malin or Avery 14 hours away to spend a week with a boyfriend and his family… I can imagine what thoughts might have been going through my parents’ heads. This is the note my daddy sent along with me.
This witty reminder made more of an impact on me than any amount of rules he could have spouted off as I was walking out the door. It had the added benefit of being clever enough that I’d want to share it with the new love of my life. After reading a note like that, Roger wasn’t about to do anything inappropriate with my daddy’s little girl. (He had been thinking about asking me to marry him while I was visiting. But… he rethought that idea and gave our relationship a little more time to develop -and got to know my family a little better- before popping the question.)
My dad’s example and his stubborn intention to make me into a woman like my mother is the root of most of the joy in my life right now; and the reason that I didn’t settle for anything less than the best when I fell in love.